Are you waiting to be "perfect" before you start ?

this week let's dive into the ways that trying to be perfect f*cks with us in our healing journey, in our business, in our work and life...

Hey builders,

Do you ever find yourself waiting for the perfect moment to take action? Are you a perfectionist like me? Recently, I came across a book { that listed five different types of perfectionism, and I realized that I am a living contradiction - sometimes I am extremely neat, while at other times I am very messy. Living with ADHD, it can feel like I'm constantly trying to understand myself more and uncover my true potential.

Then right on cue, the universe gave me a little nudge and as I tuned into my usual podcasts I was reminded of the Chiron archetype, the wounded healer and I began to see that my lived experience could be a gift to others.

The TLDR in my interpretation I might be wrong but Chiron was a powerful healer and became wounded but could not heal his own wound, rather learned to live with it and shift his relationship to his wound - embracing it, being the wounded healer. Still continuing to share his gifts and knowledge..

It made me reflect and remember - I may not be “perfectly healed” and society might see my diagnosis as something “bad” that needs to be fixed… I have many but I have in the last years shifted to learning how to have a relationship with the trauma I have endured, with the brain wiring I have. I have learned to see all these as my superpowers and like all superpowers- there is kryptonite.

I might not have it perfectly figured out, but who does? And I have to remind myself that that doesn’t mean I have to and that I can still help others uncover their superpowers, break down their biggest goals, and build a life with joy.

But there are still days when the grief and trauma feel overwhelming, and I wonder why I have to go through this. It's not easy, but I've learned that instead of trying to fix myself with every system and strategy out there, I need to use them as tools to understand and accept myself more.

I realized that I am not broken, and my ADHD is a part of who I am. You are not broken. None of us are broken. Society is broken - and we are here to make it better for ourselves and those around us.

If you’re like me though we have to remind ourselves we have proof that we can and have accomplished what we set out.

I have to remind myself - I have the proof. I've been coaching people for the past year and have helped over 30 individuals in both group and one-on-one settings. It's been a fulfilling experience, and it’s also something that has made me question myself each step of the way. Wondering if I should even do this because I am not perfect - yet the reality is no one is.

Life is not perfect, we just can try our best and design systems that work with who. where and that is unique to each person. to you. and I am lucky that I have been a tiny part of that journey uncovering folks super powers and creating systems to work for them on this journey… so

I'm excited to share that I have officially started my life coaching certification program to add more skills and continue doing what I love.

Anyways I share my life as per usual but to get you to reflect - where can YOU start shifting to your pains and wounds to have a new relationship with it? To embrace it as part of your origin story and begin to uncover your superpower?

my recommendations this week to build with joy:

currently reading: The Perfectionist Guide to Loosing Control {Find on Bookshop here}

currently listening to Astrology of the Week Ahead by Chani Nicols {the Chiron story in 15 minutes }

App I’m using obsessively: App block on my iPhone {you can download here for free }

How I can help?

So, if you're curious and want to work with me to break down your biggest goals by creating systems that work with your unique brain.

I am confidently promoting myself (yes I was terrified asf posting it before) but now have this handy dandy little application to see if we’re a good match and share more about my coaching & consulting services