What healing your relationship to yourself looks like... ✨
👇🏽STORY TIME - my 30th birthday intention, journey to heal my relationship with my brain, ADHD, and self-worth plus learn more about the ADHD Group Coaching program👇🏽
Welcome to the final day of August! As we enter the PSL season, my favorite time of the year, also known as me season (AKA closer to my birthday, the International Day of Joy on October 13th, as officially declared by yours truly), there's a reflective vibe in the air as I turn 32 (and yes I’m going to use this as a reason to post some throw backs)
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Back when I hit the milestone of 30, I whisked my friends away to a cabin in Vermont for a rejuvenating weekend, harking back to the days of my youth. During this time, I set an intention. I jotted down what I was ready to let go of and what I wanted to invite into my life on two pieces of paper, followed by a ceremonious burning.
This ritual has been a constant in my life for as long as memory serves – a symbolic release and a trust exercise, reaffirming my belief that things will align as they should.
Reflecting, it's apparent that every goal I've set for myself has materialized. Yet, our magnificent brains enjoy nudging us about what's unfinished – a protective mechanism ingrained to ensure survival.
However, the central theme upon turning 30 was nurturing healthy relationships. Exhausted by toxic dynamics in friendships, work, and romance, I had reached my limit. I was done.
Yet, little did I anticipate the ripples of that intention. I like to believe that this little butterfly friend was letting me know of the transformation ahead. The last two years have ushered me into an intense journey delving deep into my psyche, uncovering aspects long suppressed, neglected, and denied – those parts that were tangled in shame.
I've always prided myself on my independence, intelligence, and drive, often attributing these qualities to my ADHD. Yet, I had been pushing my ADHD-laden mind into overdrive, relentlessly pushing its limits, exploiting its strengths to the point of exhaustion, without considering its needs.
I never paused to ask myself, "What are your needs?" Or acknowledged my weaknesses.
The mantra was to tough it out, to keep pushing forward. I never paused to question what I truly needed, until it was too late.
I burnt myself out repeatedly, spiraling into clinical depression. This pattern had to end.
Yes, rest was essential, but what I needed was a comprehensive life reset. I embarked on a journey to save up and treat myself after two years of pouring into others, aiming for a massive self-care stint. I booked a trip to Mexico – a destination for me.
Each day, tears flowed. I resumed therapy and recognized my need for help. Though I thought I knew how to manage my ADHD, I was ignoring my weaknesses, hesitant to admit I wasn't doing great.
I wasn't as impervious as I believed, nor could I shoulder everything on my own. This is how I encountered Tiffany.
Bravely facing the tiniest things I felt ashamed to admit, I embarked on this journey seeking answers and fixes for my quirks. I longed to shed the need for systems just to appear "normal".
But the revelation was contrary.
These were my needs – intricacies that were essential for self-care. Welcoming these aspects, I gained a deeper understanding of my inner world. I realized there was nothing to fix.
I began embracing all facets of myself, acknowledging that my unique brain wiring was integral. It's my operating system, the source of great strengths and my kryptonite. Although it may seem paradoxical to others, understanding how to care for myself became key.
Learning to ask for help, advocating for myself, and allowing myself to receive care emerged as priorities. Above all, recognizing my worth became pivotal.
I am not a burden. I don't need to prove myself to anyone. Imperfection is acceptable.
I am worthy of love and owning my story, and I only need to prove myself to me.
So why share this story?
For one, it's cathartic for me to share my truth.
But also, it fuels the passion behind why I partnered with Tiffany, leading to the creation of the Breakthrough to Soar ADHD group program.
This is my origin story, a compilation of lessons that we've synthesized. This program is a lifeline for those on a similar journey, especially those like me who've felt utterly alone, misunderstood.
This is my intention and love poured into a structured offering. Particularly important for me as a first-generation Latina with layers of intersectional complexity and personal traumas.
So, if this resonates with you, if you find yourself nodding and thinking, "This is me", and you're seeking guidance and community, I invite you to explore this link and join us in the 12-week group coaching program.
We aim to make this accessible so it is currently priced at $797 (literally half of what I paid for ADHD coaching with Tiffany and is industry standard) or 3 monthly payments of $265.66 monthly payments at $66 a session - not including all the bonuses we have. That is $500 off until Monday.
Got questions or Even if you don't grapple with ADHD but connect with these words, if you're seeking a coach to hold space as you journey towards your life's goals, let's connect. Schedule an exploratory coaching session here.
As always with so much love and joy ,
Hasta la proxima and see you on instagram
Joy Valerie Carrera